Today, I went to the dentist’s office because I got a bill in the mail saying I owed $110 for my cleaning. The people at the office told me to call their accounting department, but I firmly said that I really needed to take care of this right now, and that I had to go to work. So they called the accounting department for me, and just as I’d suspected, they’d charged me in error.
Many blog posts have been written about the concept of “Just Ask!” The theory is that if you just ask, the worst thing that can happen is that they say no.
Here’s the weird thing, though. Anytime I try to use this technique and end up getting my way, I start to feel terribly guilty.
Take today, for example. I knew the dentist made a mistake. I almost just paid the damn bill anyway, since I almost don’t feel terrified by going there and they did a great job on my cracked filling last year. However, 26 straight days of work has me feeling a little bitter about life in general. So I went there. I wasn’t rude or bitchy. (Maybe a little whiny.)
Still, I feel bad that I got my way.
I guess this has to do with being raised in a very traditional house. We were always taught to be nice, to not ask for too much, and to be sweet when at all possible. In my messed-up brain, I think that getting my way makes me a bad person.
Another possible explanation is the whole Askers vs. Guessers dichotomy. I am most definitely a guesser, so asking makes me feel awkward.
How about you? Do you ever feel slightly guilty when you get your way, or do you relish those little moments of victory?