I spend a lot of money on clothes.

A lot more than I should as a person who blogs about personal finance.

I’ve read the articles about how I’m just buying into the corporate machine, the consumerist cycle that tells us we need the iPhone and Dooney & Bourke handbags.  I’ve read that as long as they’re clean and fit correctly, Costco clothes are just as good as Gucci. I know you can possibly find Ralph Lauren at Goodwill if you’re not grossed out by wearing other people’s old clothes. I get it.

Of course, I also get emails from J. Crew and Anthropologie, emails that make me realize that I need bright green elbow-length gloves and sweaters with poufy flowers all over them.

I rationalize my spending by saying that I don’t splurge on food or booze or travel or anything else.  There’s nothing worse than the days when I wake up and nothing fits correctly or the shirt I wanted to wear isn’t clean.  Given how much I save, my clothes spending is a drop in the bucket.

Anyway, this month and last I am trying to not buy anything new, mostly so I can build up some savings and go on a spree for fall clothes.  I haven’t fallen off the wagon yet, either!

So why am I even writing this entry?

I bought Anthropologie gift cards off eBay this week.  They should be sitting in my mailbox as I type.  I had to pay a lot up front, but I got about 20% off the amount of money that’s on them.  I know that technically, I’m not saving anything, since I had to pay for the gift cards, but I love Anthropologie and now I have an excuse to do a lot of shopping there!

 

Not comfortable with eBay?  There are plenty of sites that offer the same deal! Gift Cards Again does a bunch of different stores and restaurants. I’ve seen a lot of stuff at Plastic Jungle as well. These are pretty well-known websites, so there’s probably less of a risk than with eBay. (I checked, though, no Anthropologie gift cards.)

If you, like me, spend way too much on clothes and want to save money in ways that doesn’t involve buying less, this is probably the easiest way.  Less risky than shoplifting, more fun than waiting until the end of the season (how do I even know if poufy flowers will be in next winter??).

The only bad thing is that I don’t know how to make sure the balances are correct.  For some reason, my mind keeps chanting, “Just buy something and check the receipt!”  I’m pretty sure that’s cheating.

I was rereading Ramit’s article at iwillteachyoutoberich.com about why we are all hypocrites about weddings. The comments are full of people bragging about how very little they spent on their weddings - $500, $5000, $0.

I’m not really planning on having a fugal wedding.

If it was up to me, I’d do the town hall thing. I have no strong desire for the white dress and big party. I’m not very girly, despite what my obsession with Anthropologie clothes may suggest. Marriage (to me) is basically Chad and I doing what we’ve been doing, only now we’ll be doing it in a higher tax bracket. And my Catholic aunt can stop calling me the whore of Babylon, which will be nice.

My family has been looking forward to this day ever since Chad and I got into a long-term relationship (i.e. at the end of about six months, when they started asking where my ring was). They need an excuse to party and do the electric slide/chicken dance. Who am I to deny them that?

I know, we should do what we want to do, but all I’d like to do is make my family happy.

Truthfully, I love weddings. I think I will not be very into my own, if only because I hate being the center of attention. The planning process is already sort of stressful (11th hour hatred of the venue), but I’m looking forward to designing the invitations (and making my own letterpress!).

I’m not going to be able to brag too much about my wedding. I’ll come in at less than the average wedding cost ($28K), but definitely more than the median ($15K). I’ll cut costs where I can, but it’s going to cost $10K easy for food and booze for the guests.

We have the money, and I guess this is definitely a worthwhile reason for spending it.

I make no secret of the fact that I dislike my job.  The work is uninteresting, unchallenging, and the position itself comes with little respect.

I went back to graduate school in order to ensure that my brain wouldn’t waste away while I looked for another job.  I’m a little less than halfway done.

I was told back in March that there would be a positioning opening up in a different area, and that the job was mine if I wanted it.  They couldn’t officially move me until June, but I was so excited to work there that I was willing to wait.  Then our company lost a major contract and there were layoffs.  I’ve been assured that they still want to hire me, but the longer it takes, the more I worry that there won’t be a job waiting for me.  I’m not sure how much longer I would be willing to work at my current job.

I still have options.  My company allows a leave of absence for education; I would pay tuition and book fees up front and they would reimburse me after I come back and work for a year.  I could probably handle another year at my current position if it meant tuition reimbursement.  It’s possible that by the time I finished, the new job would be ready to go as well.  Since it’s at the same company, I would still be reimbursed.

Of course, if my request for a leave of absence was denied (my managers can be spiteful), I would have to foot the cost myself. 

5 classes x $4350 each = $21,750 + (books, rent, utilties, food = ~$5000) = $26,000

I just checked my account balances, and I can afford it.  I could drop everything and go to school full-time without owing anyone.  I could do it RIGHT NOW.

That is an awesome feeling.

I’m always reading lists about how to have frugal weekends.  The problem with those weekend plans is that they always sound sort of boring.  This reminds me of what Chad and I did this weekend!

We watched Season 1 of Heroes.  All weekend.  That’s all we did. 

It was frugal, because we already had the DVD set (I bought it for Chad for his birthday last year.  His birthday is in October, so that gives you an idea of how long overdue us watching it was!).  We even managed to drag our atrophied bodies off the couch and to the kitchen to make food.  Although we discussed getting take-out, even greeting the delivery guy would have required pants.  So we made our own burritos, and spent no money.

It was frugal, but so very, very lame.

Swamped today, so you get a scan from my handwritten journal:

Yes, I confess, I use a graph paper notebook.  I like to doodle, and this makes it easier!

Is it just me, or did this month seem like it dragged on forever?

1. Save 50% of my pay.  Done!
I think I got lucky this month.  I finally got my tax refund from California and a reimbursement from my company.  I also got a sweet, sweet incentive check for $2.30.

2. Buy no new clothes (except for H&M splurge, damage already done). Done.
Did this, but it wasn’t very challenging since I had spent some money at the beginning of the month.  August will be hard, especially since I keep seeing pretty Fall clothes.

3. Finish apartment cleaning/redecorating before Chad’s parents visit. Done.
We finished the living room, mostly just putting up shelving and rearranging furniture.  Did nothing to the bedroom, but I think the urge has passed.  Mostly because I haven’t added Apartment Therapy to my favorites on my new laptop yet. 

4. Email the dean at USC to see if any of my undergraduate classes can be applied toward my Masters. Fail. 
I typed up an email and forgot to send it.  I supposed I have a few more hours to get this done before August…

5. Buy a ticket home for Christmas & New Years. Done.
I bought the ticket, thank goodness for my Expedia credit!  There’s something funny going on with the billing (i.e. they haven’t charged my credit card yet) so I have to make sure it doesn’t get cancelled.

6. Decide whether or not to buy the wedding dress I found. Done.
I think I’ll probably buy it once we sign the contract for our venue. Guess I won’t be trying to save 50% for August!

7. Buy a new laptop. Done!
I love it!  I also love the iPod, although I didn’t really get much of a chance to use it.  Since it has WiFi, I can’t bring it into work.  Lame.

8. Control joint account spending. Kinda?
Technically we accomplished this sicne I focused on groceries and eating out.  Of course, we overspent on miscellaneous (stuff for the apartment, tickets to Catalina Island), and I completely forgot about renewing my car registration so we went over on Auto spending as well.  We spent $244.29 on groceries (goal was <$250) and $8.65 on eating out, although this number is artificially low since we ate out a lot this month, it was just covered by visiting parents and gift cards.

 

Clearly I am not aiming high enough!  Next month I’m going to have to put “cure cancer” and “save the environment” as goals, just to balance out all the easy things I pretend make good goals.

I’m currently writing up my July goals review and scrambling to do the things I have thus far neglected, and I remembered #6. This was the goal to decide if I want to buy a wedding dress I found. Since my 3 readers are ladies, I pose to you all this question: what do you think of this dress?

I like it because I think it’s kind of different and it reminds me of the Lazaro dress I like. It seems like every girl I know got married in the same white poofy princess dress with silver beading. This is the complete opposite of that.

It costs less than what I was planning on spending, but now that I think about it, which is better? A super fabulous white dress that I should only wear once (not that I limit myself to wearing fancy white dresses only when it’s “appropriate”), or a less expensive fancy white dress + J. Crew’s new fall line? (I’d be willing to walk down the aisle wearing nothing but those peep-toes. They are so pretty.)

My other question has to do with charity. Who do you give it to? It seems like you can get deductions for just about anything. I recently discovered that my favorite place, The Griffith Observatory here in Los Angeles, has a membership program with some neat benefits (lunch with the director, telescope parties at the observatory). It’s expensive - the plan I’m looking at is $1000 - but you get to deduct a pretty big part of that ($844). I have a charity budget that could accommodate it. There’s just a part of me that thinks it might be sort of selfish.

Whenever I think of charity, I think of helping people/animals in need. Something like a soup kitchen, cancer research center, or an animal shelter. A donation to the observatory would be less helpful to the human race. I’m torn.

Of course, there’s nothing saying that I can’t give the rest of my money to said “real” charitable organizations. What do you think?

My financial history is not nearly as exciting as my parents’.  They finally got everything pulled together when I was in high school.  We moved to an affluent area with better schools and less crime.  My sisters and I performed better there because being smart was a point of pride instead of being something one could be teased about.  There was less pressure to drink and take drugs (and we were only like 13 or 14 at this time!).

My sisters and I worked over the summer starting when we were about 16, the kind of jobs you get in high school - working as cashiers, as waitresses, as Sandwich Artists at Subway.  This money could be spent on whatever we wanted.  I still remember saving up nearly $500 for a field hockey training program (with coaches who had played in the Olympics), but never being able to go because my parents couldn’t drive me.  The rest was frittered away on pizza and movies.  Besides the general discomfort that comes from being pretty solidly middle class in a town where most other families were wealthy, I didn’t think much about money until I went to college.

Freshman year was all about balancing meal plan points.  I hated the dining halls, but with only a minifridge and a microwave to use for cooking, I wound up buying a lot of prepackaged food (EasyMac, anyone?) or sandwiches at the deli.  Looking back, it would have been smarter to eat at the dining halls, where meals only cost $2.  Near the end of the school year, I ran out and ate nothing but Ramen for the last few weeks of school.  Can’t beat 5 meals for a dollar!

My sophomore year I moved into an apartment with a friend of mine.  She had always been a little uptight, and I think I knew - even as I agreed to move in with her - that things would end badly.  She would go food shopping (without me!) and buy nothing but SmartOnes meals and diet soda and would sneak magazines into the cart and make me pay for half.  She was on a diet and would eat the meals, or nothing.  Later, once our situation deteriorated, she would accuse me of eating everything she bought.  Which may have been true. The only food we had was those meals, so I would eat one for dinner every day.  This, apparently, was more than my fair share. 

This was the first and only time I ever overdrew my bank account.  Her parents kept checks I had written at the beginning of the fall semester and cashed them around Christmas.  I didn’t track anything at that point, so I had assumed things had gone through and the balance at the ATM was mine to spend.  I wound up using most of my Christmas money to cover the negative in my account and the overdraft fees, and I still remember how awful it was to see $250 dwindle to less than $100.

In the end, that was all the lesson I needed.  The next school year, I made sure to keep a buffer of about $500 in my bank account, and I tracked my balance in a simple spreadsheet.  I managed to keep the buffer in there for 2 years, no mean feat when beer money ran short at the end of the semester.

The worst time for me was after I had graduated from college.  After 4 grueling years, I wanted time off.  I got a job offer in June, and pushed my start date until the end of August.  How did I finance my lovely 2.5 months of vacation?  By signing up for a credit card, of course!  I was not completely stupid; I was approved for a card with 0% interest for over a year and I took it.  The card financed some new clothes for work, a mattress, and my many trips to see friends on the East Coast before I moved to the other side of the country.  I was able to make the minimum payments with the small amount of money I had, and I reasoned that as soon as I started working, it would all be paid off.

When I moved out to California, there was a week before I would receive a moving stipend and two weeks before my first paycheck.  Oops.  I also had to buy a car, and although I still think that buying new was the best option for me (I know nothing about cars), I should have searched around for financing.  Toyota gave me 11%.  Ouch!

I survived by stealing yogurt from the breakfast at my hotel, and luckily there was also a “happy hour”  in the evenings (with free food). I substituted the pizza and chicken fingers for my dinner. 

Even once I got my first paycheck, it was very quickly gobbled by a security deposit and rent on my apartment (bless my landlord’s kindness, she took my checks and waited two weeks to cash them, which gave me some breathing room), credit card payments, a car payment, security deposits at utilities, etc.  It wasn’t easy in the beginning.  I paid the rent -$1350, more than a paycheck! - by myself for several months.  It was touch and go (although at least I was putting into the 401K) for a while, until Chad got a job offer and was able to move in.

I was lucky, I think.  That my job offer was such a good one, that Chad was able to move in and help with the rent, that nothing horrible happened to disrupt the delicate balancing act of my financial life.  I paid off the credit card before the interest kicked in, about $4500, and paid of my car loan at the end of 2007 (I also had refinanced through my company credit union).  I still have about $15K in student loans, but they’re in deferment now while I’m in school.

I still remember how elated I was when I had $50 left over at the end of the month.  Now I push myself to save $1500.  If that isn’t a success story, I don’t know what is.

This website has me giggling. I still haven’t seen the movie, so please no spoilers!

One of my favorite books is Lies My Teacher Told Me.  It’s about how history textbooks, in attempting to present the picture of American history as a happy, rosy journey, actually make it seem boring and actually leave out the most teachable points.

It’s a good book.

My favorite chapter - and this chapter is far too short - deals with classism.  The author argues that there is a system set up against the poor that keeps them poor.  It is inescapable, he claims, and calling America a meritocracy does a disservice to those with less. 

As a PF blogger, I can’t agree completely.  Obviously, there are inequalities in education or internship opportunities (can’t take an unpaid inernship if you need money), but there are too many stories about people working their way up, saving millions of dollars on $8/hour, for me to believe that the system is impenetrable and absolute.  (Of course, the author doesn’t claim that it is.)

I grew up poor. 

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